Children need two things: roots and wings
As we as a community and country navigate the uncertainties of our future world we may wonder if there is a way to prepare a child for what they may see in the present day of chaos and tragic circumstances. Questions from our children or grandchildren may be popping up about something they may have seen or heard. As a nation, there is an epidemic of panic and anxiety in children ages 19 and younger.
How do we discuss difficult or traumatic subjects with consideration of our children’s delicate hearts and impressionable minds?
I remember as a very young child seeing the assassination of President Kennedy on a black and white TV. I can’t forget even though it was before the age of instant replay. That one instant in time I remember where I was sitting, the feel of the rug and the feeling that whatever happened in that moment it was something that really upset my mother. Which is scary for a toddler. You may have a similar experience of some event in your life.
Young children have the innate ability to transform their trauma into something that becomes part of their life and then re-surfaces later…we all have a bit of that. Discussing difficult things with YOUNG children is not necessary or helpful and may be more anxiety producing.
Our young children’s happiness and peace is most paramount and prioritizing that above everything else is essential. As children grow and mature then start to ask questions about war and protests, things they see happening, we can choose to start reading and discussing. There are many stories about families relocated by war, inhuman treatment, or refugee stories in picture book form. These books can also help our children recognize feelings of compassion, empathy, and gratitude. Good for adults as well.
Three books of many on this topic that are here in the library include:
Like a Dandelion by Huy Voun Lee
The Blessing Cup by Patricia Polacco
Marie’s Magic Eggs by Sandra Neil Wallace